Ok, today I’m going to talk about something a little naughty…foreplay. How important is foreplay to a fulfilling sexual experience? Are you the kind that likes to take the scenic route, or do you just want to get down to business?
I must admit that as a woman, I am probably unusual in this department, in fact my husband is more like the typical woman and I am more like the typical man. My husband likes to take it nice and slow, involve all of the body and mind before reaching completion. I can often be just the opposite. When I am really in the mood and don’t need any revving up, I just want to get my freak on. I want to tear off his clothes and mine, feel skin against skin and start bucking wildly until we are both worn out and ready to collapse.
I think sometimes this personality quirk shows in my writing and reading tastes as well. I like blunt sexual scenes that are fast, hard and unrestrained. I often have to force myself to slow it down a bit when I am writing a love scene, because I know that many readers want a good build-up. I am happy to provide this, provided that I get to eventually turn things up and get a little wild. Not that sex shouldn’t sometimes be sweet, gentle and slow, but my Scorpio nature just doesn’t seem to go for that as often as the harder stuff.
Sometimes I wonder if astrology is the cause behind my husband’s preferance as well. As a Libra, he is the sign of balance, a proud fan of romance and about as easygoing as anyone you will ever meet. I am a Scorpio and often the exact opposite. I am passionate, easily carried away by my emotions, impatient and I prefer sex to be exciting and forceful.
Luckily, my husband and I try to meet each other halfway. Sometimes I give him the slow ride he craves and other times I simply jump his bones and see how crazy I can make him go. In the end, I think it all evens out.
What about you? Are you a sightseer or a hit and run driver?