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Should children be allowed to read books with sex in them?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about when might be a good age to allow your children to start reading romance novels.  My son who is 9 wants to read the Twilight series because he really likes the movies.  Some people have freaked out when I told them he wanted to read the books because there are a couple of sex scenes in the 4th book.

Debating about this matter has had me reflecting on my own childhood.  Personally, I started reading romance novels around the time I turned 12.  I found a Harlequin romance novel for a quarter at a garage sale and bought it.  After reading the sex scenes, I was hooked.  For a curious kid who was almost a teenager, these books appealed to my budding sexual curiosity.  My friends often secretly borrowed my stash of romance books, but always had to keep them hidden from their parents who would ground them if they found them reading such “filth”.  One friend even hid the naughty books I lent her under the collection of age-appropriate books her parents were trying to force her to read.  I always found that a bit ironic.

In my house sex was never a taboo subject.  When I was around 5 or 6 my mom told me all about sex, even showing me a pop-up book filled with pictures of genitals and other reproductive organs.  I don’t think I will ever forget the cardboard penis that would pop up when I turned the first page.  For some reason it even fascinated me back then!  So when I started reading romance novels she didn’t mind at all.  In fact, she would even buy steamy ones for me for Christmas.

Did all this sexual freedom make me promiscuous?  Quite the opposite actually.  I didn’t engage in any sexual activity with a partner until I was 19.  I think having the freedom to express myself sexually actually made me want to hold off on having sex until I felt ready.  It wasn’t this huge forbidden thing that many parents make it, to me it was natural and good, but also something to be taken seriously, especially since sex can sometimes come with serious consequences such as unwanted pregnancies and nasty diseases.

So what do you think?  At what age should children be allowed to read books with sexual scenes in them?

My top 5 romantic movies

This past weekend my husband and I got to do something that is rare nowadays…we were able to go to the movies and out to dinner without any kids!  Of course, I was determined to take advantage of the opportunity and see a romantic, sensual movie…unfortunately, there really weren’t any available in the theater.  We ended up seeing “New Year’s Eve”, a romantic comedy which was a decent movie in its own right, but not quite what I had been wanting.

The experience got me thinking about romantic movies and how few of them have really stuck with me and are able to instantly put me into the mood.  So I decided to put together a list of my top 5 romantic movies, some of them might be predictable and many people might find them boring and stupid, but I like them.

#5  Bridget Jones’s Diary (I chose this movie because Bridget Jones is weird, awkward and far from the most beautiful woman around, but she has a hot man who loves her and treats her like a queen, even when she is being an idiot)

#4  Jane Eyre (One of my favorite love stories of all time, I love the novel, and so far, have loved every film adaptation I have seen)

#3  Titanic (Ok, it might be corny and so 90’s, but I love Rose and Jack.  There is something so romantic about tragedy)

#2  The Notebook (When Allie and Noah finally made love, it was awesome, even if Allie was engaged to some other poor guy at the time.  Plus, who doesn’t love the scenes between Allie and Noah as an old couple?  When they died in each others’ arms, it was enough to make the hardest heart soft)

#1   Gone with the Wind (Probably the first romantic movie I can remember watching that really got to me.  I always loved Scarlett and wanted her and Rhett to be together, but she was just so stupid at times, sitting around pining for that wimpy Ashley Wilkes.  One of my favorite scenes of all times though is when Rhett gets drunk and carries Scarlett up the winding staircase to make love)

Ok, so there you have it, my top 5 romantic movies.  What about you?  Feel free to share your own favorite romantic movies, I just might check them out if I haven’t seen them already!